I Am Powerful 🦸‍♀️💪🏻

 The blog is going to jump around a little today so be prepared. I will still get my point across though so that hopefully at the end of this you are looking in the mirror thinking to yourself or saying out loud “I Am Powerful.” 

Life seems to consistently be a roller coaster or like riding a wave sometimes. So there is a good chance you are going through a difficult time or have before. We’ve all been through difficult stuff. And it sucks. But these difficulties have really helped us to grow. 

We have learned so many lessons. We’ve learned how strong we are, how resourceful we are, and what we will no longer tolerate. We have learned what is an absolute deal breaker for us, and that is so powerful. 

Until you go through these things that are difficult or heartbreaking or even slightly soul destroying, you truly won’t know your own power. These tough times make us diamonds. They make us really shine. Even though it doesn’t feel good at the time. 

Today I did some eft tapping (my method for overcoming my cptsd) around not being the victim but being the hero of my own story and how powerful that is. I even recorded in a voice memo my gratitude over all the horrible things I’ve been through because if I hadn’t went through that, it wouldn’t make me who I am. 

Alright, I said I was going to jump around so bear with me. This is still centered on being powerful. So right now in your life you may be in a rush to get things done. A project perhaps whether at work or at home. Maybe it’s a business that you’ve started and are ready to get it off the ground running.  However, this is a time of learning, growing and developing. Enjoy this time of building skills and knowledge. As you’re working towards what you want stay focused and remember that success comes through quality and dedication. Don’t take shortcuts and just do what’s easy. Don’t just give 60%. (Even though we could all get away with that and be fine). Aren’t we here to be exceptional? Aren’t we here to raise the bar? Aren’t we here to be POWERFUL? 

A bit more jumping around now. I’d like to talk about work/life balance. I have to say this is not always a “thing.” Sometimes you need to throw yourself into work more and other times work will be on the back burner. Rarely is it “balanced” so to speak. 

One major thing is to not stick your head in the sand over finances. Take care of your money and bills. Still stay open to material things. If you have an attitude of “only rich people buy that.” Then you will stay stuck in that place. Same goes in the opposite direction. Be very thankful for everything you have and stay open to the things you will receive in the future. 

What I want to discuss is taking care of yourself and your relationships as that will really make your work life sing. Making sure you are moving your body is number one. If going to the gym isn’t your thing that’s fine; go for a walk, ride your bike, dance around your living room. Don’t overthink it. Just move. Then eating well and getting enough sleep are definitely next in line. Wow, I really struggle with these. As we all know they are so essential to stress management and overall healthy everyday living for physical and mental well being. We also want to focus on our spiritual practices whether that is prayer or another practice you have. Then last but certainly not least, nourish your relationships. Those are your foundation and rock. 

All of these things will help take us out of victim mentality and allow us to become the hero of our own lives  

Are you open to receive?

 Can you receive? Can you even receive a compliment? By just saying “thank you” when it is given? I know I couldn’t do it before. Most people struggle with receiving. How can we receive the blessings being handed to us if we aren’t open? 

When we are hesitant to receive we are doing others and ourselves a disservice. Are you open to receive advice, love, friendships, creative ideas? 

Try to receive today by when someone gives you a compliment simply saying “ thank you.” Then go from there, one step at a time. 

 In a relationship you’re in ,make sure it’s a reciprocal situation. You bring a lot to the table by putting your energy and focus on them. By lavishing them with your powerful attention. Ask yourself if they are doing or are capable of doing the same for you. Ask the tough questions of am I just in this because I’m scared to be alone, or worse, because it’s convenient? 

Some things and people don’t serve you ,treat you well or encourage and inspire you anymore ; and they need to be left in the past. Leaving behind something important to us to move on to clearer waters and leaving something that isn’t working is so sad and difficult. 

Tony Robbins said “Self Growth is only self growth when it’s something you don’t want to do.” It can take time for self growth and to feel better. 

You may be sad for awhile , you may be moving away from a relationship and have to heal some wounds. As hard as it is whether leaving a job, or a friendship, or a relationship behind.

 For instance you may have decided you no longer want to go to the bar and drink with your friends every weekend and that the environment isn’t right for you. Then as you sit home you suddenly miss being there and miss the social experience and the drinks. You feel lonely and wonder if it was worth leaving this part of your life behind so that you can grow.

 In a relationship that you know is wrong for you that you are letting go of and suddenly that person is contacting you and saying they’ve changed and there is no more lying or whatever it is that was the struggle in the relationship and yet you know they’ve said this before and it hasn’t changed. Yet, you still love them and have these wonderful memories and you don’t want to leave that chapter in your life behind. 

However transition is rarely easy. If you know this thing or relationship you are leaving behind was necessary to move on albeit difficult, then you did the right thing. 

Appreciate the time alone and remember no matter how hard the situation there is always joy to be found. Even though there is heartache and pain we are moving towards a better place. 

The only thing constant in life is change. We need to be open to receive blessings and to move forward and to be our best self. Know what you bring to the table.  Don’t sell yourself short. Be with people that inspire you and continue to rise up and grow in your life. Sometimes people aren’t ready to grow with you and we just need to keep pressing forward. 

Stay strong and stay open to blessings 💖

How many points?

 There was an analogy a psychologist talked about on my friends podcast this morning that really resonated with me. She said there was a husband and a wife and the husband said :

“honey, I adore you and every-time you meet someone new or make a new friend you give them 10 points up front. Then when they do you wrong it’s like you give them 10 chances until they get down to 0 points. He said that’s really not healthy for you and that’s why you get hurt so much. He said I give 0 points upfront and they have to work hard to earn those 10 points.” 

Obviously this little anecdote is talking about trust. I was told recently by my own therapist I do the same thing, but in a romantic relationship. That I completely give the guy all my trust upfront and then give a bunch of chances once they break it. 

She isn’t wrong. However, I remember telling her I feel like that is part of me. It’s one of my qualities that makes me, well, me! I am trusting, even at times have been called naive. I had the mindset that I don’t necessarily think it is wrong to trust people upfront or to give chances. Because I am flawed and so I easily forgive others for being flawed themselves. 

As time goes on though, I am realizing the importance of allowing someone to earn trust and to earn those “points” so to speak. 

I’m not sure that will be something I will change because it isn’t in my personality. The thing I AM working on changing are my boundaries. Trying to be very clear what they are and not give so many chances when someone crosses them. I am definitely still a work in progress on that. 

Every time we stick to a boundary it is like we are putting a vote in for ourselves. Every time we do not and we bend on it or say we’ll it wasn’t “that bad” I can just forgive it this time or “it will get better.” We are in essence voting against ourselves. 

So in order to trust myself more I want to continue to be firm in my boundaries and stick to them and vote for myself. In doing this it will also continue to build confidence! 

I hope you will do the same and I hope this was helpful to someone out there today 😊

10 Things You Can do to attract money

 So I just wanted to go over some tips on how you can attract money. 

1. Look at the people who are NOT succeeding and take note and do the opposite. Then take action on what you want to do TODAY!!! 

2. Clean out your wallet. Maybe even buy a new one. Feel good about what you put your credit cards and cash in. Make room for money. Also,  Leave $300 in your wallet at all times. This is just good in case of emergencies or anytime you may need cash  

3. Go through Bank statements and look for where your money is going. I call them money leaks. For example, one of my children had signed up for Amazon music without telling me and so I was paying 2.99/mo. So I was able to get rid of that cost and thankful I paid attention to it so I wasn’t paying for something we weren’t even using. 

4. Bless your bills and pay them with Love. Be happy that you were given a service upfront and trusted to pay it. For example my gas bill is astronomically high. However the gas company provides me that service to heat my home and my hot water and then trusts that I will pay for that service. So even though we all hate bills it is something to be thankful for. 

5. Write down your beliefs about money. Take out a piece of paper and write at the top of the page: “About Money I Believe…” This will help you to see how you view money. And maybe some ways to open up and view it differently. 

6. Be generous.  Give a big tip, buy someone lunch, buy a gift, etc. Do this with a pure and positive heart. 

7. Practice being massively grateful for what you already have. We are richer than over 90% of the population. There is always something to be grateful for even if it is for running water. 

8. Clear off and clean up the entryway to your home. Take 15 minutes and sweep off the entryway. Wash down the door. Water w essential oil is wonderful also. Make sure your house number is visible on your home and on the mailbox. If you are going to receive gifts or money in the mail they need to see where to bring it. 😊 

9. Ask someone if they can use your help. We all have skills we can offer. And most people would be so thankful  if you offered them your assistance. If you clean, come to my house. Hahaha. Babysitting is my forte because I LOVE kids. I also love to dogsit. We all have a special talent we can offer to do. Life is short. Be kind. 

10. Hire a credit repair company. Many people think they are a scam. I used to believe that too but they are actually very helpful in getting your credit cleaned up. If your credit is already pretty stellar you can still check credit karma and make sure your accounts all look correct on there. If even a balance is wrong you can dispute it and then the credit company has to remove the entire thing from your collection. Also, see if your bank offers identity theft and credit score monitoring as a free service

Alright, I think that is it for my tips today :) I’ll be back on soon with some new blogs. If you have anything comments or questions please let me know. I also welcome any ideas you would like for me to do on my next blog post.