Money and Limiting Beliefs 💰

 It’s time to create some new beliefs around money. My mantra this year is “The more fun I have, the more money I make!” The sexiest thing of all is to work at something you’re passionate about and lit up by. Ask yourself “Is this going to be fun for me and if it’s not can I make it fun or change it up so it’s fun?” 

Anyone who is really moving through life and really has momentum is bringing in new ideas all the time. They are learning all the time. 

Here are some limiting beliefs and outright lies around money: 

-I have to work my ass off to ever get ahead financially 

2. I can’t have money as a spiritual person 

3. I’m going to be broke forever no matter what I try 

4. Disabled people can’t make/don’t deserve money

5. I can’t do what I want to make money 

Imagine robbing the world of your spark to make money because you think you have to be something completely different than what you are to be successful.

We all have something special to share with the world and the way we can do that is through work. Be so in love with what you do that you want to be up early and stay up late doing it. 

A major limiting belief is “I don’t know how.” The truth is when you get passionate and start to take steps the “how” will unfold. Nobody knows every step of what they are doing next. They simply decided to be courageous and act regardless of whether they know HOW to do it or not.You will figure it out. 

“All progress depends on the unreasonable man.” 

Turn on the light of your lighthouse and people will be drawn to you. 

Money and Beliefs 🤑💰💖

 Yesterday my blog spoke about money and clarity. I would suggest reading that one first as this is the next step in the process. So as we discussed yesterday , the second step in manifestation is belief. 

Beliefs create the conditions for your visions to thrive. You need to have fertile soil that you plant your beliefs in. You can’t poke a hole in concrete and plant a seed in it and think it will grow. Your mind is a garden. You need to be a diligent gardener. When you see a weed sprouting (ie- “I can’t do it, I’m not ready, I don’t know how) you pluck that weed without delay. Because the longer you let that weed grow the bigger it gets. It’s going to sprout roots and then you have a really big mess to clean up. 

Notice a counterproductive thought when it appears and pull that weed out. Everything you do and say is creating the soil of your mind. Your subconscious mind picks up every single message that’s around you. The thoughts we think every single day are creating our reality. And it’s not just about your thoughts, it’s also about the thoughts and feelings and what the people around you are saying. Which is why they say that you’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time around. 

It’s so important that we are assessing: “Who am I talking to and what are they saying about life, about money, about relationships, about the nature of people; because inevitability you are going to take that on as your own. 

Think about if you date down or if there’s someone who isn’t quite on the level of brilliance you have so you start to “dim your light” for them. We need to ask ourselves “Why is this choice working for me?” Because if it wasn’t working for you, you wouldn’t keep on doing it. So we have to say, “What’s good about this?” If there was no payoff I wouldn’t be doing it. 

The problem that you have was once a solution. So you do this because sometime in the past you dimming your light ,or making yourself small instead of showing off your brilliance ,or dating below you ,was a way of  solving a problem. Ask yourself “Do I remember the first time I felt like I had to do this?” For instance I remember when I would get all straight A’s and it suddenly wasn’t “cool” to be so smart so I would dim my brilliance. I also was always positive and upbeat and was a cheerleader and some people were annoyed that I was always so happy so I learned to tone that down. I had gotten cheated on many times so I thought if I date someone who isn’t “better” than me they will put me on a pedestal and never cheat. 

So whatever your beliefs are - you’ve kept that old solution in your head and applied it to everything in your life and now you’re in a space where that thing that was once a solution is now your problem and it’s time to require your brain. 

When we perform below our potential we get to be lazy. We don’t have to push anything, we don’t have to limit our edge, we don’t have to do anything uncomfortable or awkward or anything different. We don’t have to risk feeling like a failure because in laziness there is no failure. 

You have to start asking yourself “am I ready to trade my excellence and my potential for comfort?” Are you willing to make that trade? Do not limit your potential. Anyone can be lazy. But YOU can be excellent and divine It’s time to level up.

People say “I’ll see it when I believe it.” No you believe it first then you see it. You believe in your potential then you go out there and use it and see what you’re fully capable of. 

Enthusiasm is the secret sauce. What we love, what we are deeply passionate about cannot fail. 

Tomorrow I am going to do the second piece on beliefs. And it will tie in to the money piece more so. 

Money and Clarity

 So I am going to do a 4 part series on Money. Which is a sticky subject. For all of us. Not just myself. I’m also going to talk about manifesting which is also a touchy subject. It’s not something I thought I believed in. It sounded like some weird black magic to me. But now I’m realizing manifesting is just putting out into the world what you want and having faith that you will receive it. It’s like if you think every guy/girl lies then you are going to find evidence to back it up because you will be looking for that evidence subconsciously. Or if you think you’re going to attract a great open and honest person then you will have a beam out where you see and attract those qualities. So manifestation is simply getting clarity around what you want and believing you will get that. 

Today however I will be talking about it around the terms of money. I think I personally grew up with connotations around money, as you probably did also. So I’m just going to go over some practical facts about money. 

Money doesn’t buy happiness, but it does buy you freedom. It buys you options. It buys you opportunities. When you have enough money, you don’t have to stay in that toxic relationship, you don’t have to work until you’re burnt out; you can take a sabbatical. You can get the health care you need. You can provide for your family. 

We do unfortunately live in a capitalist society. So it’s best to figure out how to make it work for us rather then to be a victim of the system. 

As far as manifesting goes because this plays a part. There are 4 pieces to it:

1.Clarity (knowing exactly what you want) 

2. Belief 

3 inspired Action 

4. Letting go 

Today I’m just going to talk about clarity. You’ll want to envision a very clear picture of what you want. Your desires will change. So you need to have massive clarity. So it would be good to take some time and close your eyes and envision what you want. What kind of house you wake up in and what type of bed, what color of paint is on the walls, what does the room smell like? What do you hear? Is it birds singing? Is it ocean or lake waves lapping on shore? Is it kids laughing? Then pretend you get up out of that bed and look outside. Do you live over the smoky mountains of Tennessee? The gulf shores of Florida? Peaceful and serene Alaska? Are you in Italy, Paris, Milan? Dream big. Then go explore this house what does it look like? Who’s there with you or are you alone? When you walk by the mirror look at yourself. What are you wearing? How do you look? When you go outside to leave what is your mode of operation? Is it your own jet plane or helicopter? Is it a Lamborghini? Now take your vehicle and picture what your dream job is and where you would like to be at doing it and what specifically you would be doing. You’re going to head there and see how amazing it feels. 

This part is just getting some clarity around your dreams and what you saw. There are many more steps we will discuss as unfortunately we can’t just dream ourselves into Pleasantville and millions of dollars. 

I want you to write down what you saw in your vision and what surprised you. Then I want you to realize you can have all this and there are steps to go about it but for right now you need to be massively grateful for what you do have. Then when you look at your dream vision realize these things happen out of order. You may not get a 5000 sq foot home on the beach tomorrow and then a Porsche. However that hot body you woke up with in your dream you can start working towards today. The white sheeepskin rug or lacy curtains in your dream, you can go pick out today and put in your own room. Maybe in your dream you were at the beach with a glass of wine writing a book. So drive to a beach and have a peaceful day and work on that. Or maybe you had a job that you knew absolutely nothing about but it felt so good …so go sign up for a class in that area of knowledge/skill. Maybe it was having the freedom to spend the day with your children or grandchildren and take them on a special trip or just a fun packed day in general just to hear them giggle and have quality time together. 

Take a test drive of the car you drove in your dream. Stay at an Air BNB in the place you imagined waking up in. Start exploring and finding out what you really want and like. 

Make a list of at least 5 things you can do today to get you to that dream in your mind. Then take action and cross just one of your list. Maybe it’s even a smell you woke up to in your home and you buy a candle or essential oil with that scent. Perhaps you saw a color of paint in the kitchen in your dream home so you can go purchase that color of paint today. 

Just remember things don’t have to be in some perfect order to get them. And they rarely are. Life can happen so quickly and so randomly and other times what seems so slowly. Just keep working towards your dreams and taking at least 1% of a step of getting better daily. Because again, 1% better daily is 365% better at the end of the year  

I Am Powerful 🦸‍♀️💪🏻

 The blog is going to jump around a little today so be prepared. I will still get my point across though so that hopefully at the end of this you are looking in the mirror thinking to yourself or saying out loud “I Am Powerful.” 

Life seems to consistently be a roller coaster or like riding a wave sometimes. So there is a good chance you are going through a difficult time or have before. We’ve all been through difficult stuff. And it sucks. But these difficulties have really helped us to grow. 

We have learned so many lessons. We’ve learned how strong we are, how resourceful we are, and what we will no longer tolerate. We have learned what is an absolute deal breaker for us, and that is so powerful. 

Until you go through these things that are difficult or heartbreaking or even slightly soul destroying, you truly won’t know your own power. These tough times make us diamonds. They make us really shine. Even though it doesn’t feel good at the time. 

Today I did some eft tapping (my method for overcoming my cptsd) around not being the victim but being the hero of my own story and how powerful that is. I even recorded in a voice memo my gratitude over all the horrible things I’ve been through because if I hadn’t went through that, it wouldn’t make me who I am. 

Alright, I said I was going to jump around so bear with me. This is still centered on being powerful. So right now in your life you may be in a rush to get things done. A project perhaps whether at work or at home. Maybe it’s a business that you’ve started and are ready to get it off the ground running.  However, this is a time of learning, growing and developing. Enjoy this time of building skills and knowledge. As you’re working towards what you want stay focused and remember that success comes through quality and dedication. Don’t take shortcuts and just do what’s easy. Don’t just give 60%. (Even though we could all get away with that and be fine). Aren’t we here to be exceptional? Aren’t we here to raise the bar? Aren’t we here to be POWERFUL? 

A bit more jumping around now. I’d like to talk about work/life balance. I have to say this is not always a “thing.” Sometimes you need to throw yourself into work more and other times work will be on the back burner. Rarely is it “balanced” so to speak. 

One major thing is to not stick your head in the sand over finances. Take care of your money and bills. Still stay open to material things. If you have an attitude of “only rich people buy that.” Then you will stay stuck in that place. Same goes in the opposite direction. Be very thankful for everything you have and stay open to the things you will receive in the future. 

What I want to discuss is taking care of yourself and your relationships as that will really make your work life sing. Making sure you are moving your body is number one. If going to the gym isn’t your thing that’s fine; go for a walk, ride your bike, dance around your living room. Don’t overthink it. Just move. Then eating well and getting enough sleep are definitely next in line. Wow, I really struggle with these. As we all know they are so essential to stress management and overall healthy everyday living for physical and mental well being. We also want to focus on our spiritual practices whether that is prayer or another practice you have. Then last but certainly not least, nourish your relationships. Those are your foundation and rock. 

All of these things will help take us out of victim mentality and allow us to become the hero of our own lives  

Are you open to receive?

 Can you receive? Can you even receive a compliment? By just saying “thank you” when it is given? I know I couldn’t do it before. Most people struggle with receiving. How can we receive the blessings being handed to us if we aren’t open? 

When we are hesitant to receive we are doing others and ourselves a disservice. Are you open to receive advice, love, friendships, creative ideas? 

Try to receive today by when someone gives you a compliment simply saying “ thank you.” Then go from there, one step at a time. 

 In a relationship you’re in ,make sure it’s a reciprocal situation. You bring a lot to the table by putting your energy and focus on them. By lavishing them with your powerful attention. Ask yourself if they are doing or are capable of doing the same for you. Ask the tough questions of am I just in this because I’m scared to be alone, or worse, because it’s convenient? 

Some things and people don’t serve you ,treat you well or encourage and inspire you anymore ; and they need to be left in the past. Leaving behind something important to us to move on to clearer waters and leaving something that isn’t working is so sad and difficult. 

Tony Robbins said “Self Growth is only self growth when it’s something you don’t want to do.” It can take time for self growth and to feel better. 

You may be sad for awhile , you may be moving away from a relationship and have to heal some wounds. As hard as it is whether leaving a job, or a friendship, or a relationship behind.

 For instance you may have decided you no longer want to go to the bar and drink with your friends every weekend and that the environment isn’t right for you. Then as you sit home you suddenly miss being there and miss the social experience and the drinks. You feel lonely and wonder if it was worth leaving this part of your life behind so that you can grow.

 In a relationship that you know is wrong for you that you are letting go of and suddenly that person is contacting you and saying they’ve changed and there is no more lying or whatever it is that was the struggle in the relationship and yet you know they’ve said this before and it hasn’t changed. Yet, you still love them and have these wonderful memories and you don’t want to leave that chapter in your life behind. 

However transition is rarely easy. If you know this thing or relationship you are leaving behind was necessary to move on albeit difficult, then you did the right thing. 

Appreciate the time alone and remember no matter how hard the situation there is always joy to be found. Even though there is heartache and pain we are moving towards a better place. 

The only thing constant in life is change. We need to be open to receive blessings and to move forward and to be our best self. Know what you bring to the table.  Don’t sell yourself short. Be with people that inspire you and continue to rise up and grow in your life. Sometimes people aren’t ready to grow with you and we just need to keep pressing forward. 

Stay strong and stay open to blessings 💖

How many points?

 There was an analogy a psychologist talked about on my friends podcast this morning that really resonated with me. She said there was a husband and a wife and the husband said :

“honey, I adore you and every-time you meet someone new or make a new friend you give them 10 points up front. Then when they do you wrong it’s like you give them 10 chances until they get down to 0 points. He said that’s really not healthy for you and that’s why you get hurt so much. He said I give 0 points upfront and they have to work hard to earn those 10 points.” 

Obviously this little anecdote is talking about trust. I was told recently by my own therapist I do the same thing, but in a romantic relationship. That I completely give the guy all my trust upfront and then give a bunch of chances once they break it. 

She isn’t wrong. However, I remember telling her I feel like that is part of me. It’s one of my qualities that makes me, well, me! I am trusting, even at times have been called naive. I had the mindset that I don’t necessarily think it is wrong to trust people upfront or to give chances. Because I am flawed and so I easily forgive others for being flawed themselves. 

As time goes on though, I am realizing the importance of allowing someone to earn trust and to earn those “points” so to speak. 

I’m not sure that will be something I will change because it isn’t in my personality. The thing I AM working on changing are my boundaries. Trying to be very clear what they are and not give so many chances when someone crosses them. I am definitely still a work in progress on that. 

Every time we stick to a boundary it is like we are putting a vote in for ourselves. Every time we do not and we bend on it or say we’ll it wasn’t “that bad” I can just forgive it this time or “it will get better.” We are in essence voting against ourselves. 

So in order to trust myself more I want to continue to be firm in my boundaries and stick to them and vote for myself. In doing this it will also continue to build confidence! 

I hope you will do the same and I hope this was helpful to someone out there today 😊

10 Things You Can do to attract money

 So I just wanted to go over some tips on how you can attract money. 

1. Look at the people who are NOT succeeding and take note and do the opposite. Then take action on what you want to do TODAY!!! 

2. Clean out your wallet. Maybe even buy a new one. Feel good about what you put your credit cards and cash in. Make room for money. Also,  Leave $300 in your wallet at all times. This is just good in case of emergencies or anytime you may need cash  

3. Go through Bank statements and look for where your money is going. I call them money leaks. For example, one of my children had signed up for Amazon music without telling me and so I was paying 2.99/mo. So I was able to get rid of that cost and thankful I paid attention to it so I wasn’t paying for something we weren’t even using. 

4. Bless your bills and pay them with Love. Be happy that you were given a service upfront and trusted to pay it. For example my gas bill is astronomically high. However the gas company provides me that service to heat my home and my hot water and then trusts that I will pay for that service. So even though we all hate bills it is something to be thankful for. 

5. Write down your beliefs about money. Take out a piece of paper and write at the top of the page: “About Money I Believe…” This will help you to see how you view money. And maybe some ways to open up and view it differently. 

6. Be generous.  Give a big tip, buy someone lunch, buy a gift, etc. Do this with a pure and positive heart. 

7. Practice being massively grateful for what you already have. We are richer than over 90% of the population. There is always something to be grateful for even if it is for running water. 

8. Clear off and clean up the entryway to your home. Take 15 minutes and sweep off the entryway. Wash down the door. Water w essential oil is wonderful also. Make sure your house number is visible on your home and on the mailbox. If you are going to receive gifts or money in the mail they need to see where to bring it. 😊 

9. Ask someone if they can use your help. We all have skills we can offer. And most people would be so thankful  if you offered them your assistance. If you clean, come to my house. Hahaha. Babysitting is my forte because I LOVE kids. I also love to dogsit. We all have a special talent we can offer to do. Life is short. Be kind. 

10. Hire a credit repair company. Many people think they are a scam. I used to believe that too but they are actually very helpful in getting your credit cleaned up. If your credit is already pretty stellar you can still check credit karma and make sure your accounts all look correct on there. If even a balance is wrong you can dispute it and then the credit company has to remove the entire thing from your collection. Also, see if your bank offers identity theft and credit score monitoring as a free service

Alright, I think that is it for my tips today :) I’ll be back on soon with some new blogs. If you have anything comments or questions please let me know. I also welcome any ideas you would like for me to do on my next blog post.